Dear mom: Let’s talk about why you need to take a break. This is something that’s especially important for me to keep in mind, and any work at home parent or stay at home parent. If you were working at an office, you would get breaks. Perhaps a paid shorter break and a lunch break, but you would have a break. So why should working at home or being a stay at home parent be any different? It shouldn’t but in reality, we usually don’t take a break- even when we should. This is an important mental health issue for moms (and dads) to be aware of.
Yes, you can take a break.
What does it mean to “take a break”? Many of us are so busy these days that we don’t even know the true meaning of the concept. But, when referred to by most people, the answer involves making an escape from everyday life, taking the time to stand back from our hurried existence and getting a look at the “big picture.”
The truth is, most of us don’t know how to relax. When we are not engaged in any activities, our lives come to a screeching halt. Nervousness sets in because we are not texting on our cell phone, tweeting to our business partners, driving the kids to a rehearsal or sports practice or scheduling car repairs or carpet cleanings. Life has kept us in high gear for so long that slowing down is a foreign concept.
If all this sounds familiar, read on. It’s time to give yourself a break.
Discover what it means to de-stress, disassociate and drop everything. It doesn’t have to be for long but it does need to happen – for many reasons.
Everyone needs a break to regroup. Just because you are a parent, a child, an entrepreneur, a leader or a caregiver doesn’t mean that you are expected to run continuously without stopping. Society praises those who seem to have boundless energy, but you might want to ask yourself how they are achieving it without investing in downtime.
Because of the physical dangers of high stress levels, you shouldn’t feel guilty about taking time out for yourself. Everyone needs it. You can learn to work out your downtime together as a family so that the benefits are felt by the entire group and all are rejuvenated to keep going for yet another day.
Here’s another thought. When you are at your best then you can do your best for others. If you are the type of person who is dedicated to their work, their families and their community, all of these entities will reap the rewards of a well-spent break.
Admit to yourself: yes, I need to take a break.
Taking Time for Yourself
No matter how much time you have, you can put it to good use. Think about your schedule. Maybe you try to use every available moment to fit in all the activities you have to get done. What if even a fraction of that time was spent in the act of renewing your mind, body and spirit?
What about the time we spend waiting? We wait for appointments, children, clients, and traffic lights. How are you waiting during these times? It could be an opportunity to do something even more important for yourself.
Just like with exercise, relaxation time is cumulative. Five minutes here or ten minutes there can add up to big benefits for you. Don’t ever think that have to attend a class or set aside loads of time to “get it right.” There is no right or wrong way to take a break. The point is to get away and take it.
Take a Break from the Digital World
Yes, we even need to take a break from technology. It seems to rule our lives. And, we have often replaced physical interactions with people with text messages, emails and forums. Or blogging, as we know, can be incredibly time consuming if we don’t keep it in check. But the last thing that I want is for my blog to become a source of stress, so I know that I need to take a break. I usually take Sunday off from blogging and I’ve heard several bloggers say that they take at least two days off. That might be the weekends or it could be any two days of the week.
Whatever the case, it works- even taking one day off makes a huge difference.
It’s okay to take time out to recharge your batteries. Regular breaks for everyone in your family can maintain an even keel in your life and the family dynamic. Do it for your health. Do it for your quality of life.
Taking a Break is Not Selfish
As Kenny Chesney put it in his song? Sometimes yes, you just need a break from reality and that’s okay! I get it. I totally get it.
There’s so much going on in your life that it gets overwhelming.
And it is okay to acknowledge that.
It is okay to take a break.
And it is NOT selfish.
Ultimately you are doing yourself a favor.
So take that break.
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