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4 Tips for What to do After You Receive an Autism Diagnosis for your Child

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Dear mom or dad who has just received an autism diagnosis for their child- yes, navigating this initial autism diagnosis process can be emotionally taxing.

Do not give up. Love your child because they are still your child. Always remember that.

For right now? Take a deep breath. There is a light, this is not the end. Don’t feel defeated because this not something that will defeat you. This not something to be down about.

I get it, this is not the best time of your life right now. Or maybe it is. And that’s great.

We all react and deal with things in different ways. As we should. You may also wonder on how you’re going to survive. At this point, my best piece of advice is this: follow these tips for what to do after an autism diagnosisAnd go from there.

One day at a time. 

Autism has changed my life- though I can’t say that it’s “autism” specifically because it’s not entirely that.

At times it’s meant sacrifice, it was (I feel) one of the causes (though NOT the sole cause) of my divorce. But I wouldn’t change this for anything. Yes- there are still ups and downs, but we take the bad with the good and celebrate the victories as they come.

Because there are good things.

Life doesn’t end when you find out your child has autism and while you may not see the light at the end of the tunnel (yet), believe me it’s still there. Here are my top 4 tips for what to do after you receive an autism diagnosis for your child. And if you are need of further support, be sure to check out my tips and advice for  what to do after an autism diagnosis.

Surviving the Initial Autism Diagnosis

An autism diagnosis can be life changing for your family. Here are 4 tips for what to do after you receive an autism diagnosis for your child.

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What happens when your child gets an autism diagnosis?

There are a lot of things that happen with an autism diagnosis. If you are wondering about the specifics, I could encourage you to take a look at my Autism Diagnosis workbook which provides you with:

  • A printable timeline
  • Red flags to look for
  • Questions to ask your pediatrician
  • Appointment tracker 
You may also be interested in: How to Understand the New Diagnosis Process

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What happens after the autism diagnosis is given?

Honestly? The answer depends on the individual. I can relate my personal experience to you though.

This journey is one that I began in 2004. And there have been many ups and many downs, quite a few times that I started to wonder if I could do this anymore. And I wish, at the time, that someone had told me or at least given me some similar advice:

  • You will learn new languages (both related to Autism and related to the special education process)
  • You will learn to become an advocate for your child
  • You will learn to put everything in perspective
  • You will learn the depths of your patience and your strength
  • You will learn to negotiate
  • You will learn to celebrate the simplest things

And there’s so much more that you will learn as your family becomes an autism family.

Everyone’s journey is different but there might be similarities along the way. And if your child has gotten their diagnosis early in life, consider that a good thing. Start looking into early intervention programs right away.

Diagnosed later on?

You’re still in good shape. Seek out community leaders, special needs parenting organizations, and organizations that serve the special needs community. Depending on where you live, there might be a few specialized organizations or groups specifically for autism. Reach out to your community and develop your support network.

And while my journey may not be similar to your journey- I was once there.

I remember my heart sinking quickly into my stomach as the developmental pediatrician confirmed my fear. I remember trying to maintain my composure for the remainder of the appointment. And I remember crying myself to sleep once we got home. You may deal with this differently, and that’s also normal.

We all handle things in our own way and we all develop our own coping methods.

Do what you need to do to deal with the initial autism diagnosis.

If you've just recently received an autism diagnosis for your child, here are some tips for how to deal with the new diagnosis.

What to Do After an Autism Diagnosis

From my perspective and experience:

4 Things to Do After Receiving an Autism Diagnosis For Your Child

  • Allow yourself time to grieve- yes, you still have your child but the future for your child is uncertain. It’s OKAY and normal to grieve this.
  • Build up a support network. This could be in addition to your existing support network or outside of it and specific to autism.
  • Tell your family and friends on your own time. Don’t feel pressured to tell everyone that you know until you’re ready.
  • Begin researching and reading. We all have our own recommendations as far as books are concerned, and I’m no exception. Here’s my personal list of recommendations for top ten books for new parents.

3 Things to Avoid After Receiving an Autism Diagnosis for Your Child

  • Wallow in guilt. Yes- this will come too. Sometimes I still deal with it but if you allow yourself to wallow in guilt, it’s not helping anyone.
  • Be ashamed. Your child is still your child- just that now they have a new word for defining some of their quirks.
  • Give up hope. In spite of how long some of the nights might be or how many bumps you may hit, it will get better. It may not seem like it immediately and sometimes you might have to examine things in a new way to see the positive but it is there.

 

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Receiving the initial autism diagnosis can be heartbreaking, devastating, and mind blowing.

But you are not alone. You are now part of the bigger tribe. Remember what I said about building your support network? Consider me a part of that. Feel free to reach out to me via e-mail: koriathome@gmail.com or connect with me on Twitter.

Search Facebook for support groups because there are a ton of them out there. Both national and local.

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Join me in Autism Family Life: a support group for parents, caregivers, and teachers. https://www.facebook.com/groups/AutismFamilyLife

Autism is not a walk in the park. Autism can be downright ugly, but autism can also be beautiful and inspiring.

Autism may just take over your life at first, but it doesn’t have to be everything that your life entails. Yes, part of my world does revolve around autism because it is part of my life. But it’s not everything and it’s certainly not everything that my daughter is.

Don’t give up hope because it will get better. You may not always think it will get better, and sometime you may have to squint a little to see the good. But it’s there.

This journey will not always be easy, but you already love your guide.

Your child has been diagnosed with autism, now what? Let's talk about what you can do after getting an autism diagnosis for your child.

 

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Kori is an autistic mom who also happens to have ADHD and Anxiety. She is currently located in Albany, NY where she is raising a neurodivergent family. Her older daughter is non-speaking autistic (and also has ADHD and Anxiety) and her youngest daughter is HSP/Gifted. As an empath, HSP, and highly intuitive individual, Kori brings her own life experiences as an autistic woman combined with her adventures in momming to bring you the day-to-day of her life at home. Kori provides life coaching services for neurodivergent women (and those who identify as women) as well as Oracle card reading, Tarot card readings, and energy healing.

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Leanne from The Transplanted Southerner
6 years ago

My son doesn’t have an autism diagnosis. I was informed, though, that several of the “labels” he has (MERLD, SPD, possible CAPD) put him on the spectrum. I don’t know what you call that – autism by proxy? I can identify with your statements of grief and guilt – sometimes people even guilt you over your grief! Parenting is hard, parenting a child with extra/different needs is even harder, moms (and dads) need love and support when they face these circumstances.

Brandyn Blaze
6 years ago

While this isn’t something I have had to deal with personally, it has touched the lives of some people I care about. I think it is amazingly wonderful that you are willing to reach out to others and help them through this journey. Support really is key!

Thank you so much for sharing with us at #MommyMeetupMondays! I hope to see you again next week!

Jamie
6 years ago

What a great post!! I think so many parents are scared to see what is available. There are so many families dealing with the same thing!! Coming together can make a world of difference!! 🙂

Rebecca
6 years ago

I love that you encourage grieving and added not to wallow in guilt. You have a very practical and yet inspiring mindset that as a first time reader, can only attribute to experience and a beautiful personality. This is a great post, thank you for linking it up to the #ShineBlogHop

Corinne
6 years ago

Thank you for posting this! I have a friend whose son was diagnosed with autism and her journey has been both inspiring and heartbreaking. There are so many challenges but also so many blessings. I am glad you are sharing your story so others know what to expect and how to handle the process.

Melissa Matters
6 years ago

Wonderful post! These tips can really help parents of children with autism. Very important not to feel guilty or ashamed.

Jennifer | The Deliberate Mom
6 years ago

What an important point to encourage grieving. I don’t have a child with autism but I have a child with severe dairy allergies and I grieve every time she “misses” out on something or when we have a failed allergy challenge test.

I also used to blame myself… “if only I introduced her to milk earlier, etc.”.

Thanks so much for sharing (and for linking up to the #SHINEbloghop).

Wishing you a lovely evening.
xoxo

Mary Burris
6 years ago

Great post! and some really good tips. Thanks for Hosting at the Oh My Heartsie Girl Wordless Wednesday! I look forward to seeing you again next week!
Mary
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