Are you practicing enough self-love?
Your sense of self-love is greatly tied to your sense of self-esteem, your sense of self-worth, and your self-confidence. Makes sense right? It’s all about you.
And this might make you uncomfortable because, as women and particularly as moms, we tend to put ourselves last. We can’t quite possibly put ourselves first.
We can’t make it about us.. but we should. We need to get over that mentality that we’re being selfish. And we need to remind ourselves that yes, it is okay to be a little bit selfish. This isn’t about being selfish.
This is about taking care of ourselves.
And as that old saying goes? You cannot pour from an empty cup.
I mean, it’s why they tell you to put your oxygen mask on first, right? You need to take care of yourself before you can take care of others.
So how do we do that?
How do we, as autistic moms of autistic children, possibly find the time to take care of ourselves?
How can we find that time to nurture ourselves?
How can we find that time to practice a little self-love?
It’s really a lot more simple than you think.
25 Encouraging and Loving Words that Every Mom Needs to Hear
The way that you treat yourself in your own mind has a lot more significance than most people give it credit for. There are times when people might self-abuse or say nasty mean things to themselves out of habit, but the consequences of this are much farther reaching than they believe.
When you look at yourself in the mirror, what do you tell yourself? This might be the first time you’ve really ever had to think about that question, but it’s one that you should be aware of, and how you answer will make a difference to yourself on a daily basis.
Whenever you tell yourself something really negative, you’re repeating powerful mantras that can influence everything about your self-esteem and how you see yourself in the world.
So if you’re telling yourself that you’re a failure, or that you’re a bad mom, or that you’re a terrible homemaker? Those are the things that you’re going to continually believe.
Instead of one of those things? Try one of these:
1. I love my body.
2. I will stop apologizing.
3. I will keep learning to expand my mind and creativity.
4. I love and appreciate myself.
5. I accept others and I accept myself.
6. I appreciate the small stuff in life.
7. I will always take good care of myself.
8. I choose me.
9. I am grateful for the blessings in my life.
10. I value myself above all else.
11. I express unconditional love for my mind, body, and soul.
12. I will put myself first.
13. I have many accomplishments that are worth celebrating.
14. I exude love and happiness.
15. I will be kind to myself today.
16. I find joy in the little things.
17. I will do something for me today.
18. I surround myself with good, positive, and supportive people.
19. I am worthy of love.
20. I will stop using negative self-talk.
21. I will focus on the good in my life, not the bad.
22. I deserve good fortune.
23. I appreciate my body and mind.
24. I find comfort in my own company.
25. I am confident.
When you spend your time saying uplifting things about yourself, you’re going to get a more complete picture of who you are. This isn’t saying that’s should avoid dealing with things you consider to be faults. It just means you see a lot more than those things alone.
It’s not about being a perfect mom, it’s about being a real mom
Allowing yourself to see yourself completely helps to boost your confidence. That’s because you are directly acknowledging the things that are good about you instead of focusing on the areas where you feel that you fall short.
If you like, you can actually write them into a physical list. Reflect on each aspect, and think about the times in your life where those attributes have helped you to overcome something or solve a problem.
You’ll probably be amazing how many ways you’ve been able to get past things using your own natural talents. If you’ve come this far on what you know now, then imagine how well things can go when you’ve continued to learn and improve yourself.
Try to see where you will be in the future based on these positive things you’ve discovered.
You are an awesome mom
Now that you know that you have some great qualities, you can see how they might be able to help you in the future. Are you a fast learner? Do you solve problems quickly?
Having a better outlook will always make it easier for you to see yourself making accomplishments in the future.
As you go through life, meet the objection of your inner critic with confident self-talk. Tell that part of your mind to be quiet. Do whatever you need to do to move past monetary doubts.
Another great exercise you can do is to make a vision board. It helps to have visual representations of the things that you want to attain at some point. A new career, home, or vacation can be a long-term goal that you work towards.
Just be sure to write down that you know you can get to those things somewhere along the way.
It’s also important to remember that things won’t always be perfect. There can be all kinds of little snags that can push back your timeline for completing things. It’s important to stay level headed though, because when you spin out of control emotionally, things will begin to suffer.
Use positive self-talk to remind yourself of how resilient you truly are.
Find inspiration in the progress that you’ve made to date. The more practice you have learning to control your emotions, the more success you will have. Just be sure to remain patient and kind to yourself, and you will get there.
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