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The Different Signs of Autism in Toddler Boys vs. Toddler Girls

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Many young children are not diagnosed with autism until they’re in the toddler stage. It really depends on what you’re looking for with the initial signs of autism and if you’re mindful of the development. I’m not suggesting that all children should be diagnosed, of course. But parents should at least know what to look for. Especially because if you can catch the signs early, you can start therapy early. Early Intervention services were a blessing for us.

Sometimes it may also be difficult to discern between a stubborn toddler and an autistic toddler

After all, when your toddler is in the midst of an epic temper tantrum, we really aren’t going to stop and think- could this be a sign of autism?

With an autistic toddler, however, that epic temper tantrum is not just a power struggle. For an autistic toddler, this is a matter of expression for an emotion, fear, or pain that they can’t otherwise express. It could be an underlying sensory issue as well.

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Signs of Autism in Toddler Boys

Autism is diagnosed far more in boys than it is in girls. 

Often, toddler boys at the age of two, will start to show more of the social signs of autism. And, they will also start to exhibit more sensory issues and restricted interests. If the child is in preschool or daycare, it becomes far more obvious and evident. 

Toddler boys may also have more difficult connecting with their caregiver and have additional sensory dysegulation issues. So things like birthday parties and field trips may prove to be exceptionally difficult. 

And, because autism is more obvious in boys than girls, autistic toddler boys often get access to early intervention services sooner. 

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Signs of Autism in Toddler Girls

Generally speaking, of the four children diagnosed with autism, one of them will be a girl. Doctors, however, are starting to realize that autism in girls is not less common. Rather, they are being misdiagnosed with a social communication disorder or a developmental disorder.

And one study suggests that autistic girls are less likely to exhibit the “classic symptoms” that are often seen in boys. Those include:

  • Limited interests
  • Social difficulties
  • Intense aggravation
  • Self-harm

And without this official autism diagnosis, autistic girls are less likely to receive the necessary services that their male counterparts would receive. 

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When to speak to your pediatrician about your autistic toddler

During your child’s routine checkups, your child’s pediatrician should also be assessing for developmental progress and delays. But, it’s in between those appointments that you’ll want to pay attention to what’s going on. This is especially true if your child is in daycare, but you can also gauge this by taking them to a local park or playground. 

For example:

  • Your child is not engaging with their peers
  • They are not engaging with you 

If you feel like something is not quite right, speak with your child’s pediatrician. You may even want to print out a set of the new diagnosis toolkit to take with you.

Next steps to take after your toddler’s autism diagnosis

After your toddler receives a diagnosis, the next steps are usually a referral to Early Intervention services (if one has not been made already) so you can begin therapy. Or, you may want to pursue a second opinion if you and your child’s pediatrician aren’t on the same page. 

You can also find parent support groups to join, either locally or online. 


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Kori is an autistic mom who also happens to have ADHD and Anxiety. She is currently located in Albany, NY where she is raising a neurodivergent family. Her older daughter is non-speaking autistic (and also has ADHD and Anxiety) and her youngest daughter is HSP/Gifted. As an empath, HSP, and highly intuitive individual, Kori brings her own life experiences as an autistic woman combined with her adventures in momming to bring you the day-to-day of her life at home. Kori provides life coaching services for neurodivergent women (and those who identify as women) as well as Oracle card reading, Tarot card readings, and energy healing.

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