Road to Motherhood 2

Road to Motherhood

Sharing is caring!

This is another entry in the ‘All About Me’ mini-series. I figured since the name of the blog is Just Another Mom, I should probably attempt to chronicle my journey to motherhood. This story takes place in three parts, as I am a mom of three, and is spread out at different parts of my life. Each part is decidedly different, but has definitely defined who I have become as a person. Each experience is as different as each child, not that I would have expected any differently.

motherhood

I begin my road to motherhood at the tender age of 15. I was a sophomore in high school, irresponsible, and afraid. Luckily, my mom was supportive and understanding, though I’m sure she was also disappointed. Still, she took this all in stride as we discovered the pregnancy late in the second trimester. My boyfriend at the time was at a different school and we were going through a rough patch in our relationship. But, I let him know what was going on. And that was that. I didn’t quite know what to expect, of course I knew the basics but I wasn’t sure how this would affect my future.

I did know that I wanted to continue with regular classes, take my Regents exams, and set up my schedule to be as academically challenging in my junior year. Little did I know that my first born would provide me with a set of challenges that I would never see coming. He was born on May 25th, at 24 weeks gestation. He weighed 1 pound, 10 ounces and was 11 1/2 inches long.

I could fit him in the palm of my hand and he was only given a 50/50 chance of surviving the night.

Even after that, the attending doctor said, he would face a long and tough road ahead. One that I couldn’t have prepared for, even if I tried. Still, I faced this all in stride, staying my standard two nights in the hospital before going home with my mom. My son remained in the NICU, day 3 of an almost 4 month stay.

Throughout his NICU stay, he had two brain hemorrhages, resulting in scar tissue that would affect him later in life. But, that aside, he was healthy. Very tiny, but healthy, and didn’t face any of the other typical preemie problems.

I was fortunate enough to be able to spend almost every day of the summer with him as the hospital was within walking distance from home. I also volunteered at the hospital over the summer, balancing that with summer school classes so that I wouldn’t have to take them in the fall.

My junior year was condensed into a rigorous course load in the morning so I could be done with school by the early afternoon. It wasn’t easy by any means, but it was most certainly worth it.

He is now tall enough to see eye to eye with me, not a great feat by any means as I only stand at 5’3, but still.. from his humble beginnings to where he is now. I couldn’t have imagined starting my road to motherhood in such a way. But, I wouldn’t change a thing.

Through this first stint as a mom, I learned patience, perseverance, and to never take anything for granted. I also grew up seemingly overnight and life wasn’t just about me, anymore. Now, I had another human being dependent on me and the decisions that I made

The next stop, on my road to motherhood, came when I was 18. I was a recent high school graduate and had just started my first full time job when I met my older daughter’s father.

Our relationship progressed quickly and before I knew it, I was pregnant. We made the decision to keep the baby, got engaged on Christmas Eve, and were married on July 16th of the following year.

Our daughter was born on July 3rd, approximately six weeks before her due date. So, once again, I had my customary two night stay in the hospital while my child stayed behind. And while this NICU stay wouldn’t be quite as long, it was equally difficult because the hospital that she was born at was 40 minutes away.

I didn’t drive, so I was reliant on others (usually her father) to get me to the hospital to see her. I wasn’t able to see her every day and that hurt. While I was able to speak with the NICU nurses every night, it just wasn’t the same as being able to see my precious girl.

The final stop, on my road to motherhood, came when I was 31.

Recently separated, I wasn’t really looking for a relationship, I was just looking to start rebuilding my personal life and to figure out where to go as far as being a single mom of a child with special needs.

But, as fate would have it, I met my s/o (another story, for another post- perhaps in this series as well) and my life changed. Almost instantly, I knew he was the one that I was meant to be with. It wasn’t love at first sight, but it didn’t take us very long to get there. Nor did it take very long for the pregnancy.

And though the timing might not have been perfect, we both knew that we would face whatever adversity lay ahead. As you might have read in the ‘about’ section, he has two boys from a previous relationship.

I already had my boy and my girl, so for me, the gender of this baby wasn’t quite as big of a deal. Secretly I wanted a girl, (another story for another post, a difficult one to say the least) and when I asked him he stated that he also wanted a girl. I remember, quite well, laying on the exam table for the ultrasound to reveal the gender. And the elation and joy when the technician announced, girl. A little girl that would eventually be nicknamed Squeaker.

My pregnancy was different with Squeaker.

I was admitted to the hospital in late September with contractions. Terrified and regretting what might come, I readily agreed to whatever course of treatment was recommended to prolong the pregnancy. After a three night stay, I was discharged, taken out of work, and put on modified bed rest. Basically, I was told to rest and stay off of my feet as much as possible, something that I dealt with in stride. But, the end outweighed the means, as Squeaker was born as close to term as possible. I was able to leave the hospital with my baby, something that I wasn’t able to do with my previous two.

And there ends my road to motherhood, unless of course we take in another pet. My s/o and I have agreed that Squeaker will not have any younger siblings. And it’s because of this that I want to cherish every moment possible. Not that I wouldn’t anyway because they’re only young once, but because I know that this will be my last opportunity to do so.

The following two tabs change content below.

Kori

Content Creator at Kori at Home
Kori is an autistic mom who also happens to have ADHD and Anxiety. She is currently located in Albany, NY where she is raising a neurodivergent family. Her older daughter is non-speaking autistic (and also has ADHD and Anxiety) and her youngest daughter is HSP/Gifted. As an empath, HSP, and highly intuitive individual, Kori brings her own life experiences as an autistic woman combined with her adventures in momming to bring you the day-to-day of her life at home. Kori provides life coaching services for neurodivergent women (and those who identify as women) as well as Oracle card reading, Tarot card readings, and energy healing.

Latest posts by Kori (see all)

Subscribe
Notify of
guest
0 Comments
Inline Feedbacks
View all comments
Cindy Ackley
7 years ago

Awesome story of motherhood. Now matter how they get here, they are the children that were meant for us! I know that the love is there and that while some moments can be very trying, it all is so worth it!

Donna Ward
7 years ago

I am in awe of what you have done – what a path of life – thank you for sharing…I have my one son and I could feel the love from him that changed my life – Big hugs, ๐Ÿ™‚

Kathy
7 years ago

Oh Kori, what an amazing story of your road to motherhood! Thank God you children are beautiful and healthy! It sure is a hard road to go thru, but with so many blessings, it makes it so worthwhile! Thank you for sharing your story!

Jules
7 years ago

Hi Kori,
What a wonderful story about you and your road to motherhood. Life is certainly what you make of it and you have fought hard to make life how it is today. Thank you for sharing today!

Susan
7 years ago

Hi Kori, I really enjoyed your Road to Motherhood story. My daughter is a young mom also and like you, has the ability to take what comes and grow from it. Thanks for sharing. Hugs

Danna Davis
Danna Davis
7 years ago

Hi Kori, I enjoyed your post today. I especially like your honestly about your feelings. Have a good week!

Scott
7 years ago

Great story! Cherish every moment with Squeaker, before you know it she’ll be looking you in the eyes also!

Lesley Stevens
7 years ago

What a wonderful story full of God’s blessings in your life. Motherhood is sacrifice and it takes it special human being to go through what you have gone through, thank you for sharing your story.

Amanda Love
7 years ago

Thank you for sharing your story. I had my daughter when I was 20 and it was tough at first but we overcame quite a lot. Children are a blessing no matter what circumstances you had them in.

Pam
Pam
7 years ago

I enjoyed reading your road to motherhood and it seems like you have everything in a good place now. It is great that you met the person that makes you happy and now you will both write the rest of your story.

Sarah Bailey
7 years ago

What a beautiful story – thank you so much for sharing, I can only imagine how magical the road to motherhood is. x

becca
7 years ago

Beautiful story and what a journey. No matter how children come to be with us they are meant to be and to be loved when they arrive.

Amber NElson
7 years ago

Wow, I loved to read this story. You sure are a strong woman!

maria
maria
7 years ago

What a fantastic story! I love hearing about others and their journey to motherhood.

Lady Lilith
7 years ago

Nice story. It is amazing how fast time files by. Thanks for sharing.

LifeAsAConvert
7 years ago

It’s unfortunate that some people will only see the circumstances how a person got pregnant instead of how great a mother they are.
All of my kids were born premature and it definitely isn’t easy leaving the hospital as a new mom and leaving your baby behind.

Maggie May's Gifts
7 years ago

Thanks for sharing! I noticed that, as well, with our last…knowing it’s the last makes you enjoy every stage of it!

Melissa
7 years ago

Your road is beautiful and scary all at the same time. My daughter was a 26 weeker, so I know having a preemie is one of the hardest things I have ever done. Your children are very blessed.

Melissande
7 years ago

Wow. I can’t imagine having two premature babies. You’re so strong. Thank you for sharing. I just love hearing the stories of how families come together in such unique ways.

Lauren
7 years ago

What an amazing road to motherhood you have been on! Thank you for sharing your story & I look forward to reading more!

Ann Bacciaglia
Ann Bacciaglia
7 years ago

Thank you for sharing your personal story. You are remarkable person.

April @ Everyday Fitness and Nutrition
7 years ago

Such a beautiful and touching story! Motherhood is challenging at any age and under any circumstances but it’s clear that you’re a fantastic mother and an incredibly strong woman.

Branson
7 years ago

I first became a mother on a May 25th as well ๐Ÿ™‚

Ashley
7 years ago

you sound like one tough, extraordinary lady. Good for you, though, working through the chaos life was handing you and not letting it get you down, but instead letting it serve to teach and motivate you. Your family sounds wonderful. So happy for you and your three healthy and happy babies. : )

Sarah
7 years ago

Beautiful post. You seem like a very strong woman. Following you on twitter so I can keep up with your posts.

Terri
7 years ago

Thanks for sharing this!
A beautiful journey, you are a strong and brave lady
Newest follower ๐Ÿ™‚

Maggie May's Gifts
7 years ago

Sounds like everything happens as it is supposed to for you! Thanks for sharing.

Rachael Boley
7 years ago

What a journey you’ve been on. Thank you for sharing, not every road to motherhood looks perfect or how we planned it…mine certainly didn’t, but everyone’s journey is beautiful! I’m so glad you have had a happy ending,

heidi
7 years ago

Wow! Amazing story of motherhood! Thanks for sharing.

Melissa Matters
7 years ago

Wow, you have overcome a lot! Thanks for sharing your beautiful story.

shelah@mosswoodconnections.com
7 years ago

Wow, what a beautiful story. A portrait of a strong mother.

Sarah
7 years ago

I bet your babies are incredibly blessed to have you as their mother, you sound like a very strong woman!

Dana
7 years ago

Thanks for your honest thoughts

Ai
Ai
7 years ago

Quite an amazing story! What precious miracles you have been blessed with!

0
Would love your thoughts, please comment.x
()
x
Scroll to Top