All we want to do is help our parents as they get older. These days, with rising costs, and the fact that we may have concerns about our parents with regards to putting them in a home, the solution seems pretty straightforward. Putting them in a home is not always the solution, so this means that we’ve got to move our parents in with us. As the number of people living with aging parents is increasing, what do you need to consider before deciding whether your parent should move in with you?
The Type of Care Needed
You got to consider your loved one’s mental condition, as well as their physical abilities. If they are capable of independent living, you can see many benefits from bringing them in with you eventually. But you have to remember that when you are moving a parent into your home, you will be responsible for dealing with their health up to the point where they may require 24/7 care. This means that you’ve got to decide if you can cope with this, that also if you are able to make adjustments to your home. From modified baths and showers to threshold ramps, there is certainly a lot you need to consider before moving your parent in. Making these adjustments can be costly, but you have to remember that you are not able to cut corners. It’s important to look at the home and see if it can give your parent the help they need.
Look at Your Budget
Having a family member move into your more can be expensive. They may be contributing financially but you need to look at if the property gives your parents what they need, in which case you may need to upgrade to a different property that suits everybody. In addition, if you can afford full-time care, this will take the pressure off everyone. You also might want to think about asking siblings to contribute towards the cost of the care.
Think About Your Relationship
You have to consider if your relationship is able to withstand this. If you do not get along well, and there could be some deep-seated regrets or resentments, will living in close quarters help the situation? It’s important to be realistic about the relationship so you can decide if you are both able to live together. And of course, it’s not just about the relationship between the two of you, it’s about everybody else. Living in such close proximity can mean emotions may run high and external stressors can make us all feel the pressures. And this means that if we need to retreat from our problems, and the pressures, it may not be possible.
The importance of looking after your loved one cannot be underestimated. But you have to consider if you are able to provide what they need. It comes from a place of well-meaning, but the emotional circumstances, as well as the relationship between the two of you, will be tested.
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