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As parents, we love our children dearly and every second we get with them, watching them grow, learn and become better people is a privilege. But even the best of us need our own time and our own space.

Relaxing is a necessity as a human being as it’s all too easy to get far too stressed, so:

  • Create a space
  • Set a time
  • Enjoy yourself

Making time and space doesn’t refer to divinely creating a quantum continuum through the fabric of the one and many universes proliferating across all dimensions. Just creating your own cozy area in your home that you can enjoy at a set time during the day will suffice.

Comfy and Cozy Works Best

Many people, especially adult homeowners/renters, will have a favorite area of their home or a room that they enjoy. Some men might be lucky enough to have a “Man Cave”, while women get the rest of the house. 

Joking aside, you might have a favorite part of the home that you love to relax in. For many women, this might be the lounge area, the bedroom, or even the patio for those living in warmer climates. The point is, create a space for yourself in your favorite part of the house. 

Get rid of anything that will bring you down, whether it’s clutter, artwork you don’t like, or the kid’s toys. Secure self storage is an option if you don’t want to throw stuff out, but just move it out of the way. Alternatively, you could put stuff in the attic or in the basement so long as it’s not a man cave.

You might want to rearrange the furniture or perhaps purchase new items. Placing your favorite chair by the window to get the sun might be an option or perhaps buying a new bean bag chair to relax in by the fire, at a safe distance of course.

It Only Goes Forward

There’s no point in setting a space for yourself though if you aren’t going to use it. Everyone knows that being a mom is essentially a full-time job and more, so having some time to yourself can seem like a mirage. However, this is important, even if it’s 20 minutes a day, taking a break in a relaxing setting can help boost your productivity, the only problem is that you might not want to get back up again.

Choosing a time is a little tricky since there is always something that needs to be done, but generally, most children are at school during the day if they are all above the appropriate age, so any time between 8 and 3 is viable, but we all have different schedules around our different lives so the best thing is to think about when you will have the best window to just sit and relax and for how long.

Relaxation or Recreation?

So, what will you do with this comfortable and relaxing time? Many women might like to check social media and catch up with friends, watch TV or perhaps just do nothing.

Good use of this time would be around noon so you could have an early lunch which is especially relaxing when looking out at the spring rain with some tomato soup and a toasted ham sandwich or with the windows wide open to let in the summer breeze while you enjoy a crispy chicken salad.

Whatever you decide, try not to use this time for any kind of work, including a mom routine planner, finances, or a chores list. Use the time and use it well because it might only be once per day.

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Kori is a late diagnosed autistic/ADHD mom. She is currently located in Albany, NY where she is raising a neurodiverse family. Her older daughter is non-speaking autistic (and also has ADHD and Anxiety) and her youngest daughter is HSP/Gifted. A blogger, podcaster, writer, product creator, and coach; Kori shares autism family life- the highs, lows, messy, and real. Kori brings her own life experiences as an autistic woman combined with her adventures in momming to bring you the day-to-day of her life at home. Kori is on a mission to empower moms of autistic children to make informed parenting decisions with confidence and conviction.

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