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6 Ways for Step Parents to Connect with Their Step Children

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While we are not married (yet), we have been a blended family now for almost four years. Does this make me an expert in blended family parenting? Of course not. What it means, from my perspective, is that we’ve gone through the trial and error of making a blended family work. It’s not perfect, but it works for us. There’s always room for improvement but we’ve also come a long way. Here are six easy ways for step parents to connect with their step children in a natural way.

Step parenting can be a tricky topic. There is no manual for parenting to begin with. Here are 6 ways that step parents can get to know their step children.

For us, it all started with creating blended family rules. We also acknowledged that these rules would change over time.

It’s also helped that all of the adults have remained as such and treated each other with respect. We all recognize that our actions have impact and affect the children. And ultimately, as parents, we want what’s best for them.

Every step-family comes with a set of new relationships to be formed. This can be daunting or a welcome adventure, depending on how you look at it. With every relationship between a step-parent and a stepchild comes a chance to sow positive things into a child and his or her future.

It is one of the most meaningful relationships you will invest in during the course of your life. What are some things you can do to get to know your stepchild more effectively?

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6 Easy Ways for Step Parents to Get to Know Their Step Children

Take It Slow

When two families join together as a stepfamily, there are many relationships to be formed. It takes time to get to know someone in a true way. Forcing a superficial relationship for the sake of appearances is harmful in the long run.

Don’t force any child to get to know you more quickly than they are comfortable with. Be patient, and let each child lead according to their comfort level. Relationships take time, and those between a step-parent and stepchild are no exception.

Be Yourself

Don’t try to become someone you are not, just to appeal to your stepchild. Children can almost always discern true character from a fake personality. Chances are that your special qualities will play a positive role in their life in some way. Be yourself, and let your own unique, positive energy shine through.

Don’t Try to “Parent” Too Quickly

Don’t jump on board with discipline or decision making too quickly in regards to your stepchildren. Before you become an authority figure, you must first earn the respect needed to hold that position. This place can take years to get to, so don’t be surprised if it takes time.

Don’t Try to Replace Another Parent

One of the biggest mistakes a step-parent can make is trying to become a child’s mother or father when they already have one. Even if a child no longer has their other parent in the picture, it is not your right to try to replace them.

Most children will react with loyalty towards their natural parent, and you will quickly end up fighting a losing battle. Always hold your stepchild’s other parent in a place of honor and respect so that your stepchild never feels the need to choose sides.

Notice the Little Details

Pay attention to what is going on in your stepchild’s life. Without hovering, make a point of noticing the little things. When your stepchild has an interest in something, go out of your way to bring it up in the conversation or to bring an item home that is related to their interest. Look for positive things about your stepchild that you can compliment him or her on, and focus on those.

Quality and Quantity Time

Every relationship needs both quality and quantity time in order to grow. Seek out opportunities to spend special moments together, but don’t forget to simply make the time to be together even if you have nothing planned. Special moments happen many times when no one is looking for them.

Getting to know your stepchildren is a process that takes time. Find ways to connect in the obvious opportunities, as well as in the more mundane moments of life.

Little by little your relationship will grow into one you will both treasure in years to come.

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Kori is an autistic mom who also happens to have ADHD and Anxiety. She is currently located in Albany, NY where she is raising a neurodivergent family. Her older daughter is non-speaking autistic (and also has ADHD and Anxiety) and her youngest daughter is HSP/Gifted. As an empath, HSP, and highly intuitive individual, Kori brings her own life experiences as an autistic woman combined with her adventures in momming to bring you the day-to-day of her life at home. Kori provides life coaching services for neurodivergent women (and those who identify as women) as well as Oracle card reading, Tarot card readings, and energy healing.

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