As much as we want life to be sweet and kind to us, sometimes things can take a turn for the worse. Handling a difficult situation is part of the everyday skills you need to manage. We all have wished at least once to be able to hide under the blankets while life throws lemons at us. Unfortunately, the ostrich approach doesn’t work. Firstly, the way you react to them can affect your future. But, more importantly, your behavior defines you. Nobody wants to be perceived as a coward. As such, the most grown-up thing to do is to face life, especially when things get uncomfortable.
Here are the top 7 events that people try to avoid. If you find yourself using excuses or shortcuts that prevent you from tackling the situation, it’s time to think about what it says about you and how to improve your attitude.
Don’t say the F word! Did you know that a lot of Americans try to avoid funerals? Many feel uncomfortable at the thought of attending the ceremony. As such, it’s not uncommon for people to find excuses to avoid attending. Psychologically speaking, it is an understandable reaction. We all feel helpless in the face of death. However, it’s not something you can avoid. Funerals are part of our life, and, as much as we hate them, they provide us with a last opportunity to pay our respects to the departed one. You can also seize the opportunity to keep a loved one close to your heart with a cremation keepsake, such as the ones from Memorials.com. For anybody who finds it hard to recover from a funeral, being able to keep your loved one close can help to alleviate your discomfort.
#2. Political/religious differences
How could you vote for such a horrible candidate?
I really can’t understand your beliefs!
We’ve all had awkward conversations with a friend or a relative that involved either political convictions or faith. More often than not, a conflict arises when you can’t find a point of agreement between two opposite opinions. As such, you might find yourself avoiding people who disagree with your views. But it isn’t a long-term solution! Ultimately, what is enriching in our lives is to disagree with people without needing to fight to defend our opinions. Learning to put your differences aside to preserve your relationship is a sign of maturity and intelligence. While it doesn’t mean you aren’t entitled to an opinion, you need to share your points with respect. Using real facts and keeping a cool head can go a long way to maintain the peace at home.
#3. Loss of independence
When we’re young, parents are our everyday heroes. Your mom and dad were the superheroes of your childhood. However, as time passes, your parents are growing older and can be at risk of losing their independence. Frail seniors, or elderly adults who require assistance, may not be able to live in their homes safely. However, for a lot of adult children, having their parents move in is a difficult decision that can transform their routines. You have worked hard to build a family home. As such, you may not be willing to become a carer or to change your house to support your parents. Aside from the fear of not being able to handle the situation, many adults report feeling afraid of watching their parents lose their independence. ‘It’s like watching your future self.’ But showing responsibility can not only help you understand and prepare for difficult health situations, but it also strengthens your family.
#4. You are bored in your relationship
Routine can kill any relationship. When every day turns into the same experience, you can become a little bored with your couple’s life and your partner. But, as destructive as routine can be, it is also a wakeup call. Your relationship needs work, and the moment you stop working at it, boredom settles in. In other words, you need to accept your responsibility in your relationship and commit to making it work. Being bored doesn’t mean it’s time to part ways or to grind teeth and carry on as if nothing had happened. It’s a sign that you need to start disrupting the routine!
Did you know that many adults find it hard to make new friends? While we understand how to make friends at school, many feel overwhelmed when they need to find friends in a new environment, as per PsychologyToday.com. As a result, loneliness is, unfortunately, a common issue among adults. It’s okay, you tell yourself, I’ve got a Netflix membership if I’m bored. Sure, you do, but going out of your comfort zone to meet new people can be beneficial. It teaches you how to adapt and remain approachable in every situation in your life.
#6. Someone else’s happy news
Your best friend is expecting a baby.
Your sister is getting engaged.
A coworker has just adopted a puppy.
People are always excited to share their good news. But, sometimes, they find you in a bad mood. You can’t manage to share their excitement and joy. Sure, you want the best for your loved ones, but right now, there’s too much happening in yours to be happy for them. That’s where you’re wrong. You shouldn’t let bitter times affect your attitude. You don’t need to be happy with them to be happy for them. It makes all the difference in the world, and it guarantees you remain a good friend.
#7. That awkward breakup text is a no-no
When you’re at an early point in your adult life, you’re still experimenting with relationships and what being in a couple feels like. It’s a journey through breakups and conflicts, but it’s the only way of figuring out what you want from your love life. And, as such, you might sometimes be the one initiating the breakup. As tempting as it is to use modern technology and send a quick ‘we’re over’ SMS, you need to give the event the gravity it deserves. It’s not only a sign of respect for your partner but also the best way of treating people with kindness.
In conclusion, learning to handle stressful situations in life is an art that reflects on you. You are judged by how you treat people, as such, try to keep a kind heart to everything you do.
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