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“Mom, why does the world feel so loud sometimes?” My daughter’s whisper barely cut through the grocery store’s chaos. Fluorescent lights buzzed, the intercom blared, and a toddler wailed nearby. Empathy washed over me, a sudden understanding I never had before.

You see, I’d recently been diagnosed with ADHD. Suddenly, my daughter’s sensory sensitivities weren’t a mystery; they were a mirror. In the cereal aisle, amidst the sugary rainbows and cartoon mascots, a turning point in our relationship emerged. I wasn’t just parenting a neurodivergent child—I was parenting with a neurodivergent brain.

If you’ve received a late diagnosis of ADHD or autism while raising a neurodivergent kiddo, this guide is for you, mama. We’ll unpack the unique challenges and celebrate the unexpected superpowers that come with this journey. Let’s embrace our inner Wonder Woman and raise those neurodivergent superheroes together!

The Wizard of Oz Effect: Late Diagnosis as a Parenting Cheat Code

Ever feel like you’re parenting on the hardest difficulty setting? That was me before my ADHD diagnosis. Suddenly, the world shifted. My struggles with time management, impulsivity, and emotional regulation mirrored my child’s behaviors. It was like Dorothy stepping from the sepia-toned Kansas into the Technicolor brilliance of Oz.

Decoding Your Child’s Secret Language

Remember that feeling of watching Star Wars for the first time, hearing R2-D2’s beeps and whistles but having no clue what he’s saying? Then, C-3PO translates, and suddenly, you’re fluent in astromech!

That’s the power of understanding your own neurodivergence. Meltdowns aren’t just tantrums; they’re SOS signals for sensory overload. Hyperactivity isn’t defiance; it’s a brain wired for movement. Those seemingly random interests? They’re passions waiting to be ignited.

Tales from the Neurodiversity Trenches: Your “Aha” Moments Aren’t Alone

Countless moms have shared their own “Wizard of Oz” experiences with me:

  • The Homework Hero: One mom finally understood why her son couldn’t sit still for homework. After her ADHD diagnosis, she incorporated movement breaks and hands-on activities, transforming his struggles into successes.
  • The Sensory Whisperer: Another mom’s autism diagnosis unlocked the key to her daughter’s sensory world. By creating a calm, predictable environment and advocating for her needs, she empowered her daughter to thrive.
  • The Guilt-Free Mama: A third mom shed the weight of guilt after her diagnosis. She realized she was doing her best and that her unique perspective was an asset, not a liability.

Your Superpowers Are Calling: Embrace the Journey

Late diagnosis isn’t a setback; it’s a superpower upgrade. It gives us the empathy, insight, and tools to connect with our kids on a deeper level. We become the guides our children need, helping them navigate a world that wasn’t built for their brilliant minds.

This journey is far from easy, but it’s filled with moments of pure magic. Remember, mama, you’re not alone. We’re a community of neurodivergent superheroes raising the next generation of changemakers. So let’s embrace our quirks, celebrate our differences, and rock this parenting adventure together!

In the comments below, share your “aha” moments! How has your late diagnosis transformed your parenting journey?

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Kori is a late diagnosed autistic/ADHD mom. She is currently located in Albany, NY where she is raising a neurodiverse family. Her older daughter is non-speaking autistic (and also has ADHD and Anxiety) and her youngest daughter is HSP/Gifted. A blogger, podcaster, writer, product creator, and coach; Kori shares autism family life- the highs, lows, messy, and real. Kori brings her own life experiences as an autistic woman combined with her adventures in momming to bring you the day-to-day of her life at home. Kori is on a mission to empower moms of autistic children to make informed parenting decisions with confidence and conviction.

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