As moms of special needs kids, and as moms in general, we have a tendency to put ourselves last. This is ridiculous because we cannot pour from an empty cup, right? So here are a few self care ideas for moms of special needs kids.
Self Care for Special Needs Moms
Women really are natural caretakers. Whether we are moms, teachers, nurses, etc. We are always trying to take care of someone else. In fact, we get so wrapped up in this that we might not take care of ourselves. I know I’ve been there before and it was not fun. There’s this myth that self-care is being selfish and honestly? This is not the case. In fact, I would argue that this is as far from the truth as possible.
When you are taking time, and making time, for self-care? You are helping your entire family and everyone who depends on you.
Think of this way: if you’re tired, overwhelmed with mom stress, and sick? Are you really in the right state (physically or mentally) to take care of those around you?
In fact, you’re only putting more strain and stress on yourself.
You need to take care of yourself if you’re going to take care of others.
But, for those of us with special needs children? We may wonder how to find the time.
Here’s the thing: self-care does not need to be time consuming to be effective. The point is to be intentional about making time for yourself and doing something for yourself.
Simple Self Care Ideas for Busy Moms
If you haven’t already, consider a retreat. Now, this may seem somewhat impossible and especially if you have an infant or a child with special needs. But, again, this doesn’t have to be time consuming. Maybe look for a day-long event or a weekend event. You could also consider something that happens in the evenings.
If you have time, try a massage. I personally have issues with people touching me (and especially if I don’t know them) so this is a no go for me. And that’s also part of self-care. Knowing what works, or has the potential to work, for you. A massage might be a great idea for someone else. But for me? It would only add to my stress.
Getting a manicure/pedicure is another popular option that will work for many but not for me. Again, this has to do with people touching me. I’m not a huge fan, unless I know them well. And even then? I need to initiate contact.
A facial also falls under this category though luckily there are also ways to do this yourself. I’d much prefer that method.
Consider taking a vitamin. Especially during those colder months when we aren’t always outside, we could use with that Vitamin D boost.
When was the last time you went out for dinner? Whether it’s on your own, with a close friend, or your significant other; treat yourself to a date.
Maybe you could try meditation? I know this one may seem new agey to some of you, but meditating is actually a great way to center yourself.
If you have the time, why not take up a hobby or revisit a hobby that you used to have.
Learn how to say no and set up personal boundaries.
Can a coach help you with self-care?
Absolutely. A life coach or mindset coach can go a long way when it comes to keeping you on track and focused. And it doesn’t just have to be limited to self-care. Figure out how your life coach can help you in all aspects of your life.
I consider myself an autism mom mentor. But does that mean I’m just limiting myself to working with you on parenting? Nope.
I am happy to help you with anything that I can help you with. Granted, I have my own limitations but within reason, I want to help you as much as possible.