I’ve been on the journey of special needs parenting since my son was an infant. He was born three months premature and with that early birth came a few health complications. A few years later, my daughter would be diagnosed with autism as a toddler. I won’t lie and say that this has always been easy. I’m not perfect and over time, I’ve had to develop coping skills. So today I’m talking about coping as a special needs parent. This is something that I’ve touched on here and there before, such as when you get the initial diagnosis and dealing with both grief as a parent and guilt as a parent.
How To Cope As A Special Needs Parent
Being a parent of two special needs children is not something that I would have readily signed up for. But, I also wouldn’t change a thing. I love my kids regardless of their abilities. I’m also becoming more and more aware of looking beyond the labels and hoping that others will see that as well. My kids are kids first. They are people first.
Parents of children with autism take on many roles in their child’s education and every day life.
They must first recognize and pursue a diagnosis for their child. Once an accurate diagnosis is made, they must find a suitable program and services for their child. Parents need to also act as teachers in the home so that their children learn to generalize skills in the home that they are taught at school.
Parents become life-long advocates for their children.
It’s what we do. And while we have our fair share of wins and personal successes; there are plenty of times that we may feel overwhelmed and defeated.
We know, as special needs parents, that some days are downright difficult and you may feel as though you live at a zoo.
But the best thing about that? You are the zookeeper (or co-zookeeper) and you are in control of the situation… even if it may not always feel like it.
5 Coping Skills for Parents of Special Needs Kids
So what are some ways of coping?
* Find respite services. Respite can be a lifesaver in terms of giving a primary caregiver some necessary relief. Even if it’s just for an hour or two a week, respite can make a huge difference.
* Utilize your support network. Having reliable friends who understand and can listen to you vent or just give you a shoulder to cry or lean on can also make a huge difference. Yes, you might have your partner or spouse helping you out as well, but sometimes having another person to talk to can do a world of good.
* Seek counseling. If you need to talk to a professional, there is no shame in that! Maybe there’s an underlying problem that’s only getting worse with the stress of raising kids. A professional or church clergy person can help with that. Look up the resources in your community and use them.
* Accept that some worrying is natural. No one on this earth is truly worry-free. This is an unrealistic expectation that can ultimately cause more worry when you start to worry about worrying. Try to differentiate between the worrying that most people experience and the unnatural worrying that leads to anxiety.
After all, you wouldn’t be a parent if you didn’t feel worried about your child’s future or what might happen on a daily basis.
Also remember- even on the days where it may seem like you are alone on this journey – you are not alone! Help is there for you, all of you have to do is reach out and look for it.