As parents, we want our children to be happy, confident, and sure of themselves. And doing so, starts at home with a nurturing and loving environment. But how does one go about boosting their child’s self esteem? Is it just a matter of praise and and fostering a strong sense of self confidence? Or does it go beyond that? How do we, as parents, boost our child’s self esteem without them seeming too self centered or cocky? Where is the line between a self confident child and a child who boasts?
And is there really a difference between a self confident child and a cocky child?
Like many things in parenting, this takes time and steps.
They may not always notice the things that you’re doing but the difference will be noticeable with consistency.
How To Boost Your Child’s Self Esteem
* Be patient. Patience goes a long way to developing excellent character traits. When they make a mistake, encourage them to get up and try again. Applaud them for their efforts and help them to get closer to their goal the next time. This lets your child know that making a mistake does not equal failure in your eyes or theirs.
* Provide positive feedback. Sometimes the first thing out of our mouths is a negative. It’s human nature. When trying to increase a kid’s feeling of self-worth, it is important to keep a tight rein on that tongue. In every situation, find a positive spin to the outcome. For example, if your child is struggling with a school subject, give them a pep talk by highlighting how much they already have learned and that with smaller steps they can master even that subject.
* Listen. One of the best ways to show someone that they are not special or worthy is to ignore them when they speak. Kids are people, only smaller. They have opinions and important things to say. When they see you giving them your undivided attention, they are more likely to do the same for others. Kids shown this type of attention also have a strong sense of their importance in the world.
* Give them respect. Respect means listening when others speak, not raising your voice, and giving another chance when a mistake is made. It also means valuing the opinions and feelings of others. Children that grow up in respectful households are more confident in their abilities.
You may already be doing some of these things as a parent, and that’s great. But even if you aren’t, it’s never too late to start.
Try one step at a time and see how it goes.