Do you have a daughter? I might finally be relenting that raising a daughter is more difficult than raising a son. Or maybe it’s because my youngest daughter just so happens to be strong-willed like her mom. Whatever the case, raising daughters is unique. I look back on my own childhood, mostly with fond memories. And then I hit puberty and a lot of things change. My self-esteem tanked. So in hopes of preventing that with my own daughter, here are 3 meaningful ways to teach girls to love themselves. Because, as the old saying goes, you have to learn to love yourself before you can love anyone else.
Self-confidence and self-esteem is often difficult for girls. Not just in terms of body image, but just having a girl learn to love everything about herself, including her intelligence, her creativity, and the special skills she have.
3 Meaningful Ways to Teach Your Daughters to Love Themselves
Show That You Accept Yourself How You Are
One thing all girls have in common is that they look up to their mothers.
If you want your daughter to love herself, you need to show that you love yourself as well. Never talk down about yourself, whether it is about your intelligence, appearance, relationships, or anything else in your life. Try to remain positive, and while you know you have flaws, you accept them.
I’m not a super-mom, I’m not perfect, and I could go on. I embrace that though.
Be a confident person with high self-esteem, and your daughter will want to mirror that.
Let Her Make Her Own Decisions and Mistakes
Sometimes what helps a girl the most to feel good about herself is to let her take over things on her own. Let her try new things and make mistakes. She will good about the courage she had to try something new, and when she succeeds at the new thing, she feels accomplished, which is a great way to feel good about herself.
For younger girls, just playing with new toys or trying new activities to see what their capabilities are can be helpful. When you have a pre-teen or teenage girl, giving her the reigns for a variety of things can really be helpful.
Allow Your Daughter to Be Confident
Confidence should never be something others look down on. Confidence does not mean being conceited, but knowing what you are good at and what you can achieve. If your daughter does something amazing, let her boast about it.
Don’t tell her not to talk about herself or not to be conceited; she needs to know you acknowledge what she has accomplished and know that she can be proud of it.
It is important to empower girls so they can face, and hopefully even change and challenge, the media and society’s negative and inaccurate view of them.
Girls are often judged by the way they look, rather than their performance in school, or their personalities. The one way to break the cycle is by raising girls who think of themselves as more than eye candy.
They are smart, independent, strong, and interesting girls who have plenty to say and plenty to do. So, reward them for having good grades, for participating in activities or volunteering.
These are just three ways to teach girls to love themselves.
What other ways can you think of?
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